Posts by Z


The Things We Really Want By Z Zoccolante   Truth. 95% of the things we do are from the part of our brain that is subconscious. What this means is that only 5% of the ways in which we operate in the world is from a conscious place.   I tell people it’s like this. Unless you live under a rock you’ve seen Titanic. At some point, we’ve all seen the iceberg, which has a tiny pyramid top sticking up above the water. What the...

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Home By Z Zoccolante   We talk about home as though it’s a place to return, a point in time when we felt whole.   He says that home is a place that lives only in memory on a beach with a him that furrows his brows even at ten years old.   She says home is where she’s a made a place for incarnations of herself through time and space – a yoga class in India, a tug boat watching sloths by the riverside in Costa Rica,...

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Moving Through the Quicksand Emotion By Z Zoccolante   Once upon a time, which is this time in my life, I was having a hard time emotionally releasing a person who I’d recently stopped contact with. One morning I woke up and this person was my first thought, and then I spiraled down an angry spiral and began to shame myself and get down on myself.   I’m a therapist, I “should” be better at letting go, was one of my unkind...

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The One Who Left You By Z Zoccolante   This is for the you that brought a doll for your friend’s birthday, but it wasn’t the “right” color, and your friend opened it and made a face and you pretended it didn’t hurt you like a pencil stab in the heart, but you went under the table at pizza hut to cry and lied to the parents when they peeked their heads under saying that you’d dropped something.   This is the you that prided...

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If I Could Tell My Ex One Thing By Z Zoccolante   There are various theories on why we enter into relationships. Some say we are designed for connection with other humans, friendship or intimate. Working with addiction and coming from that background I believe that it’s true because I’ve seen time and again people trying to meet their connection needs with a substance or addictive behavior. I have heard of someone leaving candy...

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