Z’s Wonderland


If I Could Tell My Ex One Thing By Z Zoccolante   There are various theories on why we enter into relationships. Some say we are designed for connection with other humans, friendship or intimate. Working with addiction and coming from that background I believe that it’s true because I’ve seen time and again people trying to meet their connection needs with a substance or addictive behavior. I have heard of someone leaving candy...

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What God Does When You Lose Something By Z Zoccolante   Once upon a time, which is this time, I have a dog named Vega, who I learn a lot of lesson from. Or maybe God just uses her to remind me of things He wants to say.   Last week, after a long day, my roommates take Vega to the park so I can eat dinner. They return telling me that they’re so sorry but they lost her orange ball somewhere in the grassy knoll. It’s fine, I...

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I Give You Permission By Z Zoccolante   There are so many times in life that we start over . . .   He said that he never felt like he could really be himself, that he was always looking to the adults to tell him what he should do, could do, but where was his own voice. He said he never had the strength to follow it until the voice got soft and hid inside, out of reach. We all want to live our truth and share it bravely,...

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Can Someone Else Do It By Z Zoccolante   The day before, my car maintenance light goes on, which usually means I need an oil check. I drove it for a day ignoring it because I have life things to do. But the next day when I saw the words on my dash I thought, darn, yes, this needs my attention.   I call my dad because I need a refresher on how to change my oil. I know, I know what some of you might be thinking. I was the girl...

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Have You Ever Been A Bad Dog? By Z Zoccolante   Here’s a story about Jack and Diane. Just kidding. Here’s a story about me and my dog Vega. It’s a story about how we speak to ourselves, and others, and how that can save our psyche.   In my life I’ve found, to my small dismay, that I’m often the adult in the room. Being an adult isn’t a problem because I do adult well. The problem lies in the fact that I want to...

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The Perks of Being Invisible By Z Zoccolante I go to a conference with my best friend. Sometimes when I’m with her I feel as though we’re in a fish bubble of our very own, as though we create our own universe within the parameters of where our energy fields end. But I’m not invisible yet . . . We do an exercise. For this one we partner with different people. Every time they break us into partners they tell us to go with someone new....

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