Z’s Wonderland


The Precarious Business of Trusting GodBy Z Zoccolante Once upon a time I prayed to God. It wasn’t just a simple prayer, it was crawling to the closet to sob for an hour and to war for something to return to my life. I prayed and cried and wared like this for about four months with nothing to give me hope except my sheer force of will.  And God said no. Not to my face exactly but he didn’t give me back what I prayed for in...

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When We Do Bad Things to Feel GoodBy Z Zoccolante We’re sitting on cozy white couches as the sun reflects off the white marble outside and the deep blue water of the ocean spreads out in the distance. The conversation is about responsibility, how we define it and how that definition effects the way we think about ourselves and our past selves.  Responsibility can be a tough one because we’ve all done things we might not go back...

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Getting Our Needs Met By Z Zoccolante This week I’ll keep it short, sweet, and fitting with the theme of the week for many people in my life.  I find that clients, friends, and myself have come to a theme of the week: Will our needs be met?  It seems to be a deep dark question that stems back to childhoods or those places in our lives where we felt as though we were abandoned by others or ourselves.  I had a client today who...

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How To Take Back Your Power By Z Zoccolante How many times today have you given your power away? We do it all the time – when we wait for someone else to make a decision or to give us answers so then we can know what to do with our lives. We do it when we allow someone’s behavior to throw us off kilter. We do it when we say yes when we mean no, or when we don’t show up in our authentic selves because of some past story or fear. In my...

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To Value Our Time In Oranges By Z Zoccolante   We all have themes in our life and I find that when I’m going through a theme some my clients will often be struggling with issues around that same theme.   Lately the theme has been boundaries and value, specifically valuing our own time.   I’ve found that I’ve been in a season of winter, a time where I want to hibernate more and keep more of my energy to myself. And no,...

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The Things We Really Want By Z Zoccolante   Truth. 95% of the things we do are from the part of our brain that is subconscious. What this means is that only 5% of the ways in which we operate in the world is from a conscious place.   I tell people it’s like this. Unless you live under a rock you’ve seen Titanic. At some point, we’ve all seen the iceberg, which has a tiny pyramid top sticking up above the water. What the...

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