Z’s Wonderland


When Details Stress You Out By Z Zoccolante   I’ve been thinking about traveling lately, my mind seeking escape from my frantic routines of work and school, and all the nitty, gritty details of life.   I’m not a great detail person. I’m more a big picture thinker. I used to have argument/discussions with my ex because it took me a week to realize the house needed cleaning while he was bothered on day 1, and thought I was...

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Shame Traps You in an Eating Disorder But You Can Break Free By Z Zoccolante Shame can keep you trapped in an eating disorder. Shame is insidious, creeping into our self-esteem and wreaking havoc on our thoughts and feelings. Eating disorders come with both shame and guilt, but the difference is important. Shame is the feeling that “I am bad,” while guilt is the feeling that, “I did something bad.” The insidious part about shame is...

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You’re Only as Sick as Your Secrets By Z Zoccolante   There’s that saying that a chain can only be as strong as its weakest link. The saying reminds me of the game Red Rover that I played at summer fun when I was a kid.   You’d stand in a line all holding hands and sing, “Red Rover, Red Rover, send Jonathan over.” Little kid Jonathan would run at your hand linked people fence and if he was able to break through then he won....

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Skinny is the New Stressed By Z Zoccolante   A while back, one of my friends had a baby. She was nursing, working full time, exhausted constantly, and running around like a chicken with her head cut off. It was one day in her office building when a client of hers incredulously gushed at how skinny she was after having the baby and how her body bounced back so well.   They wouldn’t let the point go and asked how on earth did...

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What Keeps Us Kind When We Want Revenge By Z Zoccolante   Recently, I was listening to an audio story told by Brene Brown. She talked about shame, one of her famous topics, and told a story of a lady who she always leaves feelings slimed. Brene had gone to a prestigious convention and was feeling guilty for not being home for a week with her kids. As she’s waiting at school to pick up her kids, this witch walks up to her car with...

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Eating Trigger Foods in Eating Disorder Recovery By Z Zoccolante Eating trigger foods in your eating disorder recovery can feel terrifying at first. The reason the foods are trigger foods in the first place is because they cause anxiety and trigger the neural pathway to act on our eating disorder pattern, whatever it may be. Eating trigger foods as a part of your recovery can be a freeing process. Seeing or Eating Trigger Foods Causes...

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