The Magic Age for Success By Z Zoccolante (Listen to the audio of this blog in the blue box below!) When I was a kid I had this idea that by 20, I’d be a movie star and a known author. As I took steps into my early twenties and those things remained over the horizon, I was left with the sinking feeling of failure. It showed up as a nagging voice harassing me with the goals I hadn’t accomplished. Listen to or...
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How to ask Follow-up Questions in a Non-Creepy Way By Z Zoccolante (Listen to the audio of this blog in the blue box below!) Some of us are used to unloading our entire day on a friend and then maybe listening as they unload theirs. Even though both parties are talking, this dynamic can be unfulfilling. Conversation 101, might tell us that a dialogue is like a tennis match. Joe hits the ball over the net and Sue scampers...
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The Most Powerful Thing you can do for your Relationships By Z Zoccolante Most people don’t like to see others suffer and react to ease discomfort in three popular ways. They avoid a person’s emotional breakdown, jump into fix-it-mode, or begin rewriting their story for them in a positive light. Although people have the best intentions to help, these methods leave the person feeling invalidated and even add to...
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Two Ways Falsifying Memory Can Empower You by Z Zoccolante Our memories are a significant part of what makes us, uniquely us. If we lost them then who would we be? We infer from memory that we’re the sum of our experiences. Past events teach us by forming our beliefs about the world. If we grow up in an unsafe environment, we might experience, and thus believe, that people mean to do us harm. If we are teased in...
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Doubt is a Big Fat Liar By Z Zoccolante Do you remember who you were before the eating disorder? Do you remember your goals and dreams before life was defined by food, body image, or the word skinny? When you think about being free, does a voice whisper that it’s not possible? That voice is doubt and it’s a big, fat liar. They say that doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. Perhaps it’s because...
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How to Shine as an Introvert By Z Zoccolante By now if you haven’t heard Carl Jung’s popularized terms of the introvert and extrovert, you’ve probably been living under a rock. These terms have to do with how we use energy. The basics are that the extrovert gets their energy (like filling up a battery) from being around and interacting with others. The introvert gets their energy from being alone and is often drained...
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