Z’s Wonderland


What It Feels Like to Stay By Z Zoccolante   Geneen Roth, one of my favorite writers on women and our bodies wrote, “We intuitively understand that we want something we cannot see or touch but we don’t know how to name or access it. And so, we fall back into believing that being thinner will right everything that is wrong. The only problem with that is that it is based on a lie.” – Geneen Roth   I remember this period of my...

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The Moment God Shows Up by Z Zoccolante   This week I am reminded with intensity how vital it is to process our emotions.   As we get older life throws more at us. The thing I once thought was the worst thing of my life (my eating disorder), paled in the pain of my divorce. And maybe there will be something more in the future. Something else to bear.   In the Bible, it says that God will never give us more than we can...

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The Psychedelic Art Show by Z Zoccolante   This week I stumbled across a quote by A.R. Lucas, who writes “We’ve been infected with this idea that love is an emotion only felt between two people. But love is universal. An energy. A contagious force. A gift. To offer money to a homeless man is to love. To save a worm from the sun is to love. To smile at a stranger is love. To be grateful, to be hopeful, to be brave, to be...

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Coffee With Friend By Z Zoccolante   Last night a friend passed through town and purposely laid over her flight to have a night with me. We have to walk slow, she said as I parked around the corner from my favorite coffee shop, I might have a broken toe.   What, I asked? Should we check it?   Nah, it’ll be fine, she said as we strolled slowly down the sidewalk.   We sip lattes and discuss family, kids,...

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The Way We Shine By Z Zoccolante   What stops us from having the things we desire? Perhaps it lies in us thinking that it’s impossible, that we are not able to have the dreams of our hearts, the things that light us up.   We get stuck in the quicksand of us. Some of past experience has hurt us or made us want to live smaller than we know we are capable of. If we don’t try we can’t fail right? But the downside is that we also...

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A Life In Focus By Z Zoccolante   Life gives us what we focus on. It gives us the things that we desire with joy. It also gives us the things we are afraid of and mull over. Because the unspoken rule of energy is that we create what we focus on.   Energy is like food. If we feed something, by our focus on it (whether positive or negative), it get’s bigger, stronger, more robust.   Scrolling online the other day I...

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